I chatted to Luke Deighton, the owner of premium Cacao brand, Highbration Organics. Not only do I love their cacao (my personal favourite), I also love the divine/sacred masculine work that Luke is doing.
1. Can you please tell us about your healing journey? When did you start? Why did you start/what happened?
I’ve dipped my toe in for a long time, and lived one foot in two worlds for much of my adult life. My parents' divorce hit me really hard in my early 20s. Becoming the middle man, so-to-speak, for a lot of that time and seeing my idol (my father) completely derail was really tough. That time period, I made the conscious choice to just bury everything and became really good at wearing masks, and not letting emotion come through.
This was something that had been developed even earlier in my sporting youth of being told not to show emotion. So this event was a great opportunity for my subconscious to mesh sport, where I'd had a lot of success and supposed happiness into my every day life, and follow a model that my mind knew I could survive in. Not ideal or healthy by any means, but surviving often isn't.
Fast forward to early 2020, and I had started to notice that the way I carried myself, energetically, was really not serving me. Covid then hit, and we also had the birth of Elijah, and I really started to come to the realisation that something had to shift
I’d still be living one foot in the more holistic or spiritual world and one foot completely ignoring it. But all of these events led us to start asking a few questions of ourselves.
Are we happy with the way in which the world is going? Are we confident that something will change if we don’t do anything? The answer was no, and so we had that choice of just surviving and hoping for the best, or going out and creating it. We chose to go out and create it, and that meant also choosing to no longer shy away from my heart which meant diving fully into that healing journey.
That led me to walking away from my mining supervisor role, which most people thought I was mad for, and really going all in on myself.
2. What practices do you implement frequently? Do you have a daily routine?
I have an ideal day, where I would wake up, ice bath, gym, sauna and then get into work. But a lot of the time, the kids have a different say in that, and so my routine involves prioritising and juggling to fit those things in within the family dynamic — and try to support Elise in making sure she gets a chance to nourish as well. My activities will vary based on what energy I’m in. If I'm in a period of creating, then my nourishment activities are often softer. Stretching, meditation, arts etc. If I'm in a more masculine-period, then its more physically challenging.
My routine is very cyclical, and we follow the wheel of the year as well, which it tends to align with quite well.
3. What have been your biggest downfalls and strengths along this path?
Wanting to know all of the answers. I developed a very logical mindset, I put so much stock in people pleasing, wanting to be everyone's' mate, and those masks were really hard to pull down.
It took a lot of journeying with Cacao to melt those walls and really start to reconnect with my heart, my truth, and purpose — and stand in that truth.
Self awareness has always been a large strength of mine. I now just action that awareness. The support around me, in particular the women in my life—who knew the truth of my heart and pulled me back to that path—and then had faith in me leading them down that path. Trusting the vision of what I'm setting out to create.
Great structures that help me to recognise when I'm out of alignment, and then pull me back in when resistance arises etc.
4. For other men out there that haven’t started their inner growth or healing journey, what advice would you give to them?
We all get in our shit, we all make mistakes. What matters is what structures we have in place to be true to ourselves, more often than we are not. When you start, that scale will be heavily skewed in the not department. Slowly but surely, that balance will tip. We are conditioned to live life for others, that has to shift.
You need to be true to yourself, you don’t need to be every typical male archetype. Find your unique genius and let that light shine in the world. Each of us is different, some of us are fighters, some of us are visionaries, some of us are healers. We all have a role to play. What's important is that we are playing the role that is aligned with our truth. That’s how we serve ourself and others to the highest level possible.
That’s how we lead our life and our loved ones in service of the highest good. Enough of us do that, and the world will be an incredible place to live.
5. What are the most noticeable positive changes in your life, since starting your inner growth and healing journey?
More fun, more ease, more grace. My mindset shifting from gauging success based on materialistic items, to gauging success on the abundance in my life, and how often is my day filled with the things I love.
I spend more time in my genius than out of it, and there for the things that I would love to create in the world materialise quicker. I live life for myself and those I love, rather than for others or having it dictated by others.
Find out more about Luke and Higbration Organics at www.highbrationorganics.org
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